Bedtime WIN!!

In the past month, something miraculous has happened at my house. I’ve been scared to celebrate too much in case it was just a fluke but I think it is now safe to say that this miraculous event will continue to happen every night.

A little background: My daughter has always been a decent sleeper, so I really can’t complain much. She started sleeping through the night at about 6 weeks old and has continued to do so fairly consistently.

We did have a short phase not long after her first birthday where she would not sleep in her crib and we ended up putting her in bed with us. She would typically start out in her crib but wake up in the middle of the night and be inconsolable until we brought her to bed with us. It lasted a few months. Neither hubby or myself were particularly thrilled with the arrangement but were pretty sure it was a temporary phase. The extra cuddles weren’t all bad, after all, but being shoved to the very edge of the bed by little toddler feet was not great.

Our biggest issues have always been getting her to bed at a decent time and being able to put her to bed awake/groggy and let her fall asleep on her how (without crying).

I’ve tried establishing a good bedtime routine that includes a bath, reading books and rocking in her room but if she wasn’t tired enough, she would just walk away from me and go play with toys and if I forced her to sit with me and rock, tantrums would ensue. So, we typically let her play until she was tired and then snuggle with her on the couch when she was ready until she fell asleep in our arms. I did attempt many times to put her to bed before she fell asleep completely but it only worked sporadically. Typically, she would wake up fully as soon as I laid her down and cry. Then I was stuck rocking her in her dark room until she fell asleep and that typically took an additional 30 minutes to an hour. We were lucky if this whole bedtime routine was finished before 9:30pm–sometimes later.

So, that’s where we were a few weeks ago, snuggling on the couch from about 7:30pm until she was fully asleep in my arms around 9:30pm. When she starts getting tired, she pretty much demands the cuddling or being carried. I didn’t try to fight it–I just did it. I can’t focus on anything else if she’s crying at my feet anyway, she can be quite demanding for such a cute little girl.

This left very little time in the evenings to do much of anything else after supper. I’d come to accept my fate in the world of late bedtimes. At least she’d sleep in until 7am–I had that going for me.

But then–one fateful night just a few weeks ago–we had been on the couch cuddling for a little while, as per usual. She was clearly sleepy. It was about 8:30pm. I was just kind of talking randomly to her and I said, “Are you ready to go night night in your bed?”. She sat right up like she thought it was the greatest suggestion she’d ever heard. I was flabbergasted. I told her to give Daddy a kiss and hug goodnight and she happily jumped into his lap to do so. Then, she reached out her arms to me and I carried her to her bed, kissed her goodnight and laid her down. We didn’t hear a peep from her until 7am. I was in shock. It was glorious.

She has continued to follow this bedtime routine every single night since then. She’ll even go to bed a little before 8:30pm some nights (though it typically leads to an earlier wake up time).

I cannot express just how life changing this new bedtime routine has been. It’s just so amazing. The extra hour or so in the evenings feels like a huge gift. So far, I’ve used that hour to be productive and do some cleaning around the house or I’ve just relaxed and caught up on the DVR or a movie with hubby. I’ve even–get this–been able to read a book on some evenings. I haven’t had time to read since my daughter was born 20 months ago and I missed it so so much. Or, best of all, just have some alone time with my hubby to catch up and relax without having to focus on anything but each other. It’s definitely something we were in need of.

I’ve won the bedtime lottery!

 

 

Little Reminders

Hey folks, following up on my Weekly Imperfections #1 post from yesterday.

While I thought it was a pretty decent idea to just share some things that I thought would be relatable to other busy moms and women about how my week wasn’t exactly a shining picture of productivity, it actually had an unintended consequence for me…

I  felt great after sharing those things “out loud”.

It was almost like a little weight lifted off my chest. I was letting someone else know a little about what I was struggling with. They weren’t huge struggles, they were actually pretty simple little things-believe me, there are much bigger things I worry about daily, these were baby step admissions. But, I didn’t feel the greatest about them and normally wouldn’t tell anyone at all. But, I pushed myself out of my comfort zone a little bit and I did it and I feel like I’m reaping a few rewards from it today.

When I happened to wake up 10 minutes before my alarm went off this morning, it seemed like a sign that I needed to take those few minutes and actually shave my damn legs! Simply because I’d finally verbalized that it was bothering me. So, I did. Isn’t it crazy how much more comfortable shaved legs feel?

Also, while at my parent’s house last night, I threw my toddler in the bath with my little nephew while he got his bath (my sister and her family were spending the night). I didn’t have her soap, bath toys, hair detangler or jammies with me and it was way out of our normal bath time routine but…who cares? She got a bath and she got to spend extra time with her cousin–she needed to learn that it’s ok to do things outside of our normal routine too…something that’s obviously very hard for her mommy to do.

It seems so small but it’s a good way to get out of your own head and to get out of your routine if you struggle with those things like I do. It was a great reminder for me to keep doing those things more often. So, please, remind yourself to keep doing the small things that help you get through your week a littler easier as well!

And have a great holiday weekend! We’ll be potty training at my house–stay posted for updates on that!

 

 

Weekly Imperfections #1

It’s so easy to get sucked into social media. Both reading it and posting on it. And it’s really easy to forget that people only typically post things that make themselves look good. I’m guilty of this too.

And, frankly, I’m kind of tired of seeing all that perfect shit. It tends to just make me feel bad about myself for not being that perfect. So, in the spirit of keeping this blog real, I’m going to start posting regularly about the random things that I do or happen to me that aren’t perfect.

Because, let’s face it, you guys can probably relate a lot better to the fact that I haven’t bathed my child in 3 days than to a picture of a sweaty, chiseled six-pack (I don’t have one of those, by the way).

Here we go:

  • I haven’t bathed my child in 3 days…and counting. We’re usually an ‘every other night bath’ kind of family but I was seriously wiped out last night so I didn’t get to it. Tonight, we’re going to my parents house for dinner and tomorrow night my stepson has a Football game so our regular bath time won’t be available for some time. Looks like I’ll be bathing my child immediately after work tonight which just feels odd…so it might not happen.

 

  • I haven’t shaved my legs in well over a week. They’re getting slightly itchy but it really seems like a lot of work to take that extra 10 minutes in the shower and that throw off my whole morning routine, which I’m just not willing to do. Looks like I’ll be wearing pants again tomorrow instead of capris…

 

  • I bought a box of those ice cream drumsticks in a moment of weakness and I didn’t want to share one with my toddler, so I gave her one of her own so I could enjoy mine without her begging for it. She’s not really old enough to handle an entire drumstick on her own yet…so it’s like I get one and a half. Ok, I did this with the entire box, not just once. #SorryNotSorry.

 

Let me know some of your imperfect moments this week!